Do any of these ring true for you?
“I need to be in control of everything”
“It’s ok for me to hold everything together”
“I’m such a ‘people pleaser,’ I find it hard to say ‘no’ then I end up resenting it”
“I’m always keeping others happy, my needs can wait”
We try to do it all.
But you don’t have to do it all, it doesn’t have to be ‘just right’, and you are NOT the only one who has to do it all, you are NOT superwoman.
When we take on the ‘superwoman’ role, life doesn’t just become harder for ourselves, but also for our family – we become grumpy, bad tempered, stressed, then throw hormonal imbalance into the mix and you’ve got a hot house of feisty tension.
When we had our twin boys I strived to ‘do it all’. I would work through my never-ending to-do-list like a beaver, and it had to be done perfectly – exhausting huh.
I thought ‘what’s the worst that can happen besides feeling a bit tired at the end of the day?’
What was I trying to prove, and to who?
It wasn’t sustainable and my body eventually said ‘no more’ and gave me way more than I bargained for – it came in the form of adrenal fatigue – with all the stress and pressure I’d put on myself I’d literally fried my adrenals.
I experienced tiredness like I’d never felt before, getting out of bed and getting through the afternoon stretch were my biggest challenges. My one and only burst of energy came at bedtime and my head was buzzing with a ‘wired’ feeling.
I had terrible PMS, I couldn’t handle anything remotely stressful, I had a very short fuse and the smallest thing would send me into a rage. I also gained a lot of weight around my middle and all I craved and wanted to eat was sugary foods.
The idea of looking after myself didn’t even enter my radar. I had two small babies to take care for and a house to run.
Because our adrenals produce our hormones, my hormones started going haywire. To say I had a hormone imbalance would be an understatement, hormonal hell would be more accurate.
I felt so desperate to find a solution, I was prepared to try anything, so I pretty much did. I even accepted the prescription for Prozac my doctor gave me. But there was a loud voice within me shouting ‘your body is deficient in something, but it’s not prozac’.
It’s been a journey and it certainly didn’t happen over night, but I’ve learnt the best possible lesson: SELF-CARE. This is why there’s such a strong emphasis on self-care in The Harmony Project, because self-care is such an essential ingredient to our wellbeing.
Taking care of myself in the best possible way and aiming for ‘pretty good’ over perfection, has been hugely liberating. Letting go of those feelings that drove me to perfectionism weren’t easy but I knew it was essential for my wellbeing.
I knew that self-care had to be a priority in order to get my health back. My biggest lesson was that if I don’t take care of me, then I’m no good to anyone.
Perfectionism… it’s overrated & it’s exhausting. Strive for pretty good, then you’ll feel like you’re winning!
My biggest sources of comfort for health and healing are real food, my daily smoothie kick, and my pure essential oils – so much so that I’ve wrapped it up in a nice little package called The Harmony Project to save you the bother of searching and searching for answers like I did.
What are your favourite ways to take care of YOU? Comment below, I love to hear from you!
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