Perfectionism: A High Price To Pay

Do any of these ring true for you?

“I need to be in control of everything”
“It’s ok for me to hold everything together”
“I’m such a ‘people pleaser,’ I find it hard to say ‘no’ then I end up resenting it”
“I’m always keeping others happy, my needs can wait”

We try to do it all.

But you don’t have to do it all, it doesn’t have to be ‘just right’, and you are NOT the only one who has to do it all, you are NOT superwoman.


When we take on the ‘superwoman’ role, life doesn’t just become harder for ourselves, but also for our family – we become grumpy, bad tempered, stressed, then throw hormonal imbalance into the mix and you’ve got a hot house of feisty tension.

When we had our twin boys I strived to ‘do it all’. I would work through my never-ending to-do-list like a beaver, and it had to be done perfectly – exhausting huh.

I thought ‘what’s the worst that can happen besides feeling a bit tired at the end of the day?’

What was I trying to prove, and to who?

It wasn’t sustainable and my body eventually said ‘no more’ and gave me way more than I bargained for – it came in the form of adrenal fatigue – with all the stress and pressure I’d put on myself I’d literally fried my adrenals.

I experienced tiredness like I’d never felt before, getting out of bed and getting through the afternoon stretch were my biggest challenges. My one and only burst of energy came at bedtime and my head was buzzing with a ‘wired’ feeling.

I had terrible PMS, I couldn’t handle anything remotely stressful, I had a very short fuse and the smallest thing would send me into a rage. I also gained a lot of weight around my middle and all I craved and wanted to eat was sugary foods.

The idea of looking after myself didn’t even enter my radar. I had two small babies to take care for and a house to run.

Because our adrenals produce our hormones, my hormones started going haywire. To say I had a hormone imbalance would be an understatement, hormonal hell would be more accurate.

I felt so desperate to find a solution, I was prepared to try anything, so I pretty much did. I even accepted the prescription for Prozac my doctor gave me. But there was a loud voice within me shouting ‘your body is deficient in something, but it’s not prozac’.

It’s been a journey and it certainly didn’t happen over night, but I’ve learnt the best possible lesson: SELF-CARE. This is why there’s such a strong emphasis on self-care in The Harmony Project, because self-care is such an essential ingredient to our wellbeing.

Taking care of myself in the best possible way and aiming for ‘pretty good’ over perfection, has been hugely liberating. Letting go of those feelings that drove me to perfectionism weren’t easy but I knew it was essential for my wellbeing.

I knew that self-care had to be a priority in order to get my health back. My biggest lesson was that if I don’t take care of me, then I’m no good to anyone.

Perfectionism… it’s overrated & it’s exhausting. Strive for pretty good, then you’ll feel like you’re winning!

My biggest sources of comfort for health and healing are real food, my daily smoothie kick, and my pure essential oils – so much so that I’ve wrapped it up in a nice little package called The Harmony Project to save you the bother of searching and searching for answers like I did.

What are your favourite ways to take care of YOU?  Comment below, I love to hear from you!


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Cassia & Lime Bliss Balls

I just love how these incredibly nourishing ingredients marry so perfectly with these two oils.  I love to get essential oils (I only use therapeutic grade) into raw food any way I can simply because they nourish our cells on so many levels.


Just a couple of facts on these oils:
Lime the Oil of Zest for Life.  Lime cleanses and revitalises the heart space, giving room for light and joy.
Cassia the Oil of Self-Assurance.  Cassia brings gladness and courage to the heart & soul.  Cassis dispels fear and replaces it with self-assurance.  It helps those who hold back and try to hide.

90g apricots
90g sultanas
1/2 cup sunflower seeds
3/4 pecans
1/4 desiccated coconut
1/2 tbsp chia seeds
1 tbsp softened coconut oil
1 drop Cassis doTERRA essential oil
7 drops Lime doTERRA essential oil
Place all ingredients in a food processor and whizz until it comes together enough to form balls.  Extra desiccated coconut for rolling (optional).
(Recipe adapted from Food Alchemy)



Why essential oils? Why dōTERRA?

Over the years, I’ve used essential oils but it wasn’t until the last year that I discovered they’re so much more than just ‘pretty smells’. I also believed that essential oils were all equal in purity and quality.

What I didn’t know is that even though an oil can say 100% pure, it still may contain synthetics or chemicals.

Our skin is our largest organ and we only need to think about how a nicotine patch works to realise how much our skin absorbs. And it’s why I believe that what we feed our skin is just as important as what we feed our body.


My BIG lesson in this was when I was ‘hormonally depressed’ (as I like to call it), I discovered that the ingredients of my lotions and potions were disrupting my endocrine system (our internal hormone messaging centre), so swapping those for more natural alternatives became a priority for me.

If we want to thrive as women and be our absolute best, then we need to reduce our stress, insomnia, and inflammation, and we want to do this by using the most pure and natural ingredients.

This is why I chose dōTERRA for both my skincare and as a solution to my physical and emotional health concerns. These essential oils are the highest quality oils available, they’re pure plant extracts with zero additives or fillers.

Click HERE to watch a short video about dōTERRA.

When you choose these oils, you are choosing essential oils gently and carefully distilled from plants that have been grown and harvested in their natural habitat by experienced growers from around the world for ideal extract composition and efficacy.

Each dōTERRA essential oil is also carefully and thoroughly tested using the strict CPTG Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade quality protocol.

Whether you’re an experienced essential oil user or a complete novice, once you smell a dōTERRA essential oil you will smell the difference in purity.

Bridget xo

P.S. To schedule a FREE consultation with myself to find out which essential oils can aid your physical and emotional health or to learn about supplementing or replacing your income by sharing essential oils, CLICK HERE to book your slot.

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2 Smoothies to Rock Your Socks!

I know I go on a lot about smoothies but that’s because they’ve made SUCH a difference in my life and have sorted out so many digestive issues for me, plus, they’re the BEST way to get nutrients into your body in the best possible way – nothing chews your food like a blender, and the more chewed your food is, the healthier and happier your gut 🙂

Some people haven’t taken to smoothies but that’s mostly because they haven’t tried one that tastes really good.  So today I want to share two recipes with you that are REALLY good!

First up is my Chocolate Thick Shake:

Flaxseeds have a multitude of nutritious benefits, and have been linked to lowering your risk of heart disease, stroke, cancer, and diabetes (plus my Nan who has just turned 98 swears by them!)  Cacao powder has over 40 times the antioxidants than blueberries.  And don’t forget the goodness of avocado… our bodies thrive on this good fat plus it creates a beautiful thickness.


8 ounces almond milk
½ cup crushed ice
1 ripe banana
1 tablespoon raw honey
½ avocado
2 tablespoons raw cacao
2 tablespoons almond butter
1 tablespoon golden flaxseed (I grind these fresh myself to ensure the goodness is broken up but you can also buy them already ground).

Place all ingredients in the blender and blend until smooth.  Sprinkle some chia seeds on if you like – they add a delicious crunch plus they’re SO good for you!

Second up is my Green Goddess Smoothie

This smoothie is a great way to get raw kale or spinach into your body – personally, it’s the only way I can eat those leaves raw 🙂

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8 ounces almond milk
1/2 cup crushed ice
1 ripe banana
1 handful kale or spinach
1 tbsp almond butter
2 small pieces of dark chocolate (I use Green & Black’s 85%)

Blend well and enjoy!  Your body will thank you for it!

Try and add smoothies to your daily diet – I promise you’ll feel better for it and it’s what we do every day that counts.


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DIY Bubble Bath

Bubble bath is great to use for all ages!  However, most commercial bubble baths are full of artificial chemicals and fragrances and can be irritating to your skin. Making your own bubble bath out of essential oils is a great way to reduce chemicals in your home while still enjoying the fun and relaxing elements of a bubble bath.

This bubble bath is gentle on your skin and can be customised with your favourite essential oil. Use Lavender or Serenity for relaxing benefits or Citrus Bliss or Peppermint to help wake you up.

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What You Need:
1 cup unscented castile soap (I use this brand)
1/2 cup vegetable glycerin (I use this brand or this one)
2 tablespoons water
10-15 drops of your favorite essential oil

Note: Castile soap and vegetable glycerin should also be available at your local health food store.


1. Combine castile soap, glycerin, and water into glass bowl.


2. Add your two tablespoons of water.


3. Add essential oils.


4. Stir until well combined.


5. Pour into glass container. To use, add 1/4-1/2 cup of bubble bath mixture to warm, running bath water.

Note: These bubbles are not going to provide big fluffy bubbles that last a long time since it doesn’t contain the synthetic ingredients that make them. However, this chemical-free bath will provide enough bubbles for a relaxing and therapeutic bath you will still enjoy.

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If you are interested in knowing how you can get safe pure therapeutic grade essential oils that contain no fillers or synthetic ingredients then please contact me here.  I respond within 24 hours.




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It takes more than a box of Tampax to get us through the month! Here are my 4 secret weapons…

I used to think so long as I had my Tampax then all was well – WRONG.


Irritable, anxious, foggy, cranky, depressed, and don’t dare ask ‘is it your time of the month?’  Because YES world, it’s my time of the month!

This is how it was for me and how it still can be, if I don’t manage my hormones.

Our hormones perform a delicate dance within us, so taming them to dance perfectly is a challenge in our busy modern society, but there are 4 things I will always turn to when things get busy.

They are my 4 secret weapons for riding the hormonal wave with success (naturally):

1. Maca
This incredible Peruvian herb helps relieve symptoms of hormonal imbalance, menopause and it also helps with low libido.  It’s got a wonderful malty flavour and I love to add it to my smoothies.  (Recommended daily dose is 1-2 teaspoons.)

Here’s one of my favourite smoothie recipes with Maca powder:

raspberry smoothie

Rasberry Maca Smoothie
1 small banana
juice of ½ lime or 1 drops doTERRA Lime essential oil
½ cup fresh or frozen raspberries
1 tsp maca powder
1 tbsp sunflower butter
1 pinch cinnamon
1 cup filtered water or almond milk

Blend until smooth, drink & enjoy!

2. Clary Calm
clary-calmWhere would I be without this gem… Clary Calm is a blend of essential oils that provides a soothing and calming effect during our monthly cycle.

This blend has been traditionally used to balance hormones and manage symptoms of PMS and the transitional phases of menopause.  It provides temporary relief from cramps, nausea, hot flashes, and the emotional swings (rollercoasters in my case) often associated with hormone cycles.

When I feel those moments rising then I roll it on my wrists and feet twice a day. (From our feet it takes only 30 seconds for it to reach our bloodstream).  Within 20 minutes I’m feeling a whole lot calmer and less reactive.

3. Balance
balanceThis is a blend I use all month round but especially during my pre menstrual stage. Balance creates a sense of calm and wellbeing and helps reduce feelings of disconnectedness and anxiety. 

I put a drop on my feet twice a day, morning and night.  I also use this blend on my children, which not only creates a great bonding moment, but we certainly have less meltdowns on the days I remember to put it on them.  Some other uses for this blend are: Back Pain, Depression, Energy, Hot Flashes, and Mood Swings.

I have noticed a HUGE change since using these two oils.  I feel calmer and way more together with the support these oils provide.  When I am stressed with the kids and my ‘to-do-list’ I get out my Balance, rub it in and breathe it in and it WORKS.  I have loved being able to take control of both mine and my family’s health with essential oils.  It is really empowering to have something that is SAFE, EFFECTIVE, and completely natural to use as our first line of defence, before having to call the doctor.

3. Legs Up Wall
legs up wall pose
You don’t have to pose like a pretzel to reap the benefits of yoga!  This position is one of my favourites – it not only calms the mind but it gives the adrenals a chance to rest so that they can communicate with your thyroid gland better.

Plus, when you’re in this position your heart has to pump stronger to get the blood back up the legs – so in a way you’re sort of exercising while relaxing, pretty cool huh?

So, when the need calls, if you do nothing else, use one of my secret weapons and breeeathe, because you’re only days away from the rise of estrogen which is going to naturally boost your energy, mood, and optimism – yay!

You can purchase the above essential oil blends here, or if you’d like to become a doTERRA member and save 25% then all you need to do is email me at: with ‘I’d like to save 25%’ in the subject line.


I would love to hear about ways you use your essential oils!  I have been amazed at how they are changing my life and those that I care for.  I would love for you to share how they have changed yours.  I have to add this disclaimer that I am not a doctor and these opinions are my own.  Not all essential oils are created equal.  Oils can say 100% pure therapeutic grade and not be completely pure.  I highly recommend doing your own research.  doTERRA oils are Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade and are tested on 6 different levels for their purity.  If you have any questions or need help locating the right oil for your own particular health issues you can email me at: 

6 Foods That Make You Happy

There are many different components to maintaining a good mood and I believe that food has one of the biggest influences – as I so often say, ‘food is functional’.  The food we eat can either harm or heal us.

Studies have shown 6 nutrients that help us combat depression and boost our mood, they are: calcium, chromium, folate, iron, magnesium, and omega-3 fatty acids.

So if you’re needing a pick-me-up then read on to discover why you need these minerals and the different foods you can source them from:

kaleThis mineral is vital for maintaining strong bones and healthy blood vessels. Low levels of calcium may also play a role in hormone imbalance so this is one mineral I make sure is always in my diet.

Food sources: ricotta and kale


This mineral helps our body metabolise food. If we don’t get enough of this mineral is can affect the body’s ability to regulate insulin which can lead to diabetes-related health issues.

Chromium can be a powerful mineral for regulating our serotonin levels, and which is why it’s been found to be an effective treatment for depression.

Food sources: broccoli, potatoes and turkey

Folic acid
If you’re feeling tired and fatigued then you could be deficient in folic acid. Folic acid helps the body create new cells and it also supports serotonin regulation.

Food sources: spinach, black eyed peas, Brussels sprouts, asparagus, avocado


green_lentilsOur body needs iron! From transporting oxygen to supporting our energy levels and improving our muscle strength, there’s no questioning the importance of iron in our diet.

Low levels of iron can quite simply lead to fatigue and depression.

Food sources: fortified oatmeal, soybeans, lentils, and turkey (the darker part of the meat as opposed to the lighter meat).

The magnificent mineral could be the answer to many health troubles with it’s many roles. It has over 300 roles to play out to keep us healthy and functioning optimally. A deficiency can cause irritability, fatigue, mental confusion, restless leg syndrome, depression and stress.

It’s another important mineral that plays a huge role in the development of our serotonin – that feel good mineral our brain so needs.

Food sources: almonds, spinach, cashews, peanuts, edamame.

The essential fatty acid essential for our brain health. Without Omega-3s we can experience a slump in our energy, our mood (even mood swings!), and memory decline.

Food sources: chia seeds, salmon, Chinese broccoli, spinach


There are plenty of other vitamins & minerals that our body needs but it’s all about slow steps here… if I gave you 50 you wouldn’t know where to start, right?

So without the overwhelm you can start getting creative in the kitchen and utilising these different foods for a marvellous mood!

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Get dressed up, you’re worth it!

Do you ever have ‘I’ll just stay in my joggers’ days?

I work from home and some days I only ever have to leave the house to do the school run, so I’ve had MANY ‘I’ll just stay in my joggers’ days (with no make-up!)

In fact, I used to have such lazy pants kind of days that I even left the house in my slippers (not realising of course), TWICE!

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I just didn’t NEED to make an effort, so I didn’t. They say that how you do one thing, is how you do everything, so everything got a bit sloppy.

And you know what else they say?

What you focus on you attract.

Dressing in this way attracted low self-esteem, a low mood, and a lack of respect from others. It makes sense though, right?

My wake up call was the horrific reflection that stared back at me from a local shop window – OMG, how did I let myself leave the house like that?

So here’s a no brainer – if you look good, you feel good!

Make heads turn, get a spring in your step, and find your inner glow!

It is not arrogant or vain to spend time on looking good. In fact, it’s imperative to honour your appearance.

You are worth getting dressed up for, it doesn’t matter where you’re going or what you’re doing. Don’t hide your wonderful self under those joggers!

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What’s the go with gluten & what you need to know…

If you’re anything like me and you love your tea+toast then you’ll want to know what that bread is REALLY doing to you, right?

Most of us feel heavy and lethargic after eating bread. Within minutes of eating gluten I could literally feel it zapping my energy stores.

But eating bread goes way beyond that ‘heavy’ feeling.

“Gluten-free” has become the new catchphrase to sell food, but trendy or not, gluten is a very real health concern for many, and it’s not just those who suffer with celiac disease.

Gluten is Latin for “glue”, and it very much has a glue-like effect in the body. Gluten is a gut irritant that makes tiny lacerations in the intestinal wall, meaning that partially undigested food particles leak into the system, which also means less absorption of nutrients and which may cause inflammation (any pain within the body can be a sign of inflammation.)


I’ve experimented with A LOT of alternatives and no, I’m afraid nothing matches the real thing, BUT… spelt bread comes close. Spelt is an ancient unprocessed flour (it’s actually my favourite flour to bake with) and although it’s still got gluten in it, it’s lower in gluten than most loaves.

There are more and more gluten-free loaves in supermarkets these days but you’ll be hard pushed to find one that’s not processed with a crazy list of ingredients.

Here’s a recipe that I’ve been tweaking over the months which is very low in gluten and which has become my staple bread for tea+toast: click here for the recipe

I never thought I could live without my fluffy bread (gluten is what makes it fluffy!) so if I can do it, you can too. Once you start feeling the benefits it makes it all worth it.

Just try it for a month and see how good (and lighter) you feel!

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The chemical storm affecting our wellbeing EVERY DAY

Two years ago I had no clue that what I was putting on my skin might be affecting my wellbeing – food and lifestyle choices yes, but skincare?

When I learnt that certain skin products (as well as household products), might be part of the reason behind my hormonal chaos, then I had to make it my business to find out more.

Just living our normal lives we are exposed to more than 700 dangerous chemicals that disrupt our endocrine system (remember, this is our internal messaging centre where our hormones talk to each other, so we don’t want to mess with this).


These chemicals can be found not just in skincare but in toothpaste, deodorant, sunscreen, food preservatives, the lining of cans that hold food, and many kinds of plastic.  Basically HUNDREDS of products that we use daily.

I used to think that what we ate was more important than what we put on our skin but not so, they’re equally important.  You just need to think about how a nicotine patch works to understand how much our body absorbs through our skin.  It is after all our largest organ.

What enters our body, whether it be via our mouths or our skin, has an affect on our health and wellbeing, in either a negative or a positive way.  You can choose which, if you know the facts.

Every day we are using products that we think are safe, but the truth is that most of these products are NOT safe – and with such loose labelling laws and regulations, manufacturers don’t have to tell us either.

These chemicals play havoc with our hormones, for both men and women.  They can affect our mood, our cycle, reproduction, fertility, and development.

There is a LONG list of harmful ingredients to be weary of, so my approach is the same with food – because really, who has time to be reading and deciphering all those labels – keep it real and natural, and stick with brands that you trust.

My favourite brand and products that I trust wholly and completely are dōTERRA.  They produce incredible products which are all plant based using 100% pure therapeutic grade essential oils, and the company itself is a culture of wellness which encourages self care.

Here’s a pic of my favourite skincare products (that little gem in the middle there is the most beautiful blend of essential oils that not only smell divine but are a real treat for those pesky lines & wrinkles):


And when it comes to perfume, I like to make my own using essential oils and filling them up into an easy to apply rollerball bottle.

Here are 6 great reasons to make your own perfume using pure essential oils:

  1. You can choose your own fragrance
  2. They contain no fillers, synthetics or harmful chemicals
  3. You can choose a blend according to how you want to feel (more on that in number 5!)
  4. They smell incredible!
  5. And… they help shift our mood – how exciting is that!!  (The biggest challenge my hormone imbalance presented me with was my emotions – argh, nothing would bring me out of that slump, so you can imagine how excited I was to find out about the pure power of essential oils.)

Find out more about getting in on the oily fun and saving on essential oils here, or learn how you could create a joyful and abundant income here.

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